We respectfully disagree with Emily Post.
We recognize that the traditional contribution to a couple at their wedding is a gift -- that every time we use a piece of cookware thoughtfully purchased for us, we'll think of you. And this is true! However, by the date of our wedding, we will have lived together for over six and a half years. We already have our CrockPot, our InstaPot, our SodaStream, and plenty more houseware. We have more coffee mugs and wine glasses than we know what to do with. (Well, we drink plenty of coffee and wine out of them -- but we don't need any more of these!)
And while we have generally had the household items we needed over the years, we didn’t have the right to marry or even live together in many states.
When the law treats us differently, people feel comfortable treating us differently.
Though we have the right to marry today, there are still
many barriers to full equality under the law.
But this is changing thanks to groups like Family Equality – a wonderful non-profit we support. Family Equality's mission is to advance
legal and lived equality for LGBTQ+ families, and for those who wish to form them, through building community, changing hearts and minds, and driving policy change.
We would be honored if you would consider skipping a personal gift to us and instead join us in supporting Family Equality with a gift to them.
